Why Men and Women Lie

Why Men and Women Lie

Ever wonder why relationships are all fun and frolic first but eventually tend to take a turn for the worse? Often, in the initial phase of a budding relationship, people are on their best behavior, to project an image of themselves that is not necessarily genuine. They want to appear perfect in the eyes of their partner and in the process, often resort to hiding their reality and twisting the truths. Overall, there are various factors attributing to why men and women lie to each other.

Why do men and women lie to each other, despite their shared mutual attraction? Let’s face it, relationships are tricky business. You might think you've found someone who catches your fancy and matches your taste, but more often than not, that person has deviated quite a bit from the truth to inflict an impression upon you. The frequency of lie, of course, varies from person to person. Some lies are white, and told merely for the purpose of sparing your feelings from getting hurt. Some, on the other hand, are told to conceal facts that upon revelation, tend to bruise you and leave you devastated.

Lying in relationships is more common than one would imagine. The frequency of lies by men and women are somewhat similar. Gender doesn't really play a strong role in this front. Both the sexes are capable of telling lies that range from predictably mundane to immensely creative. Although nobody likes being lied to, it is perhaps an unspoken agreement between couples that trivial white lies are acceptable and thereby forgivable. What you can’t possibly overlook, are the elusive lies that are hurtful and deceitful.

Women lie for various reasons. Mostly though, they’re trying to spare your feelings. Think about it; she might not be digging your new cologne, she might have issues with your eating habits, she might not like you spending long hours with your buddies. She, however, would prefer to keep these things to herself and lie about being alright with them. This isn't blatant dishonestly, but a mere attempt at adjustment, and can thereby be overlooked. Studies show that women usually lie to make people feel better and spare their feelings, while men are more likely to use a lie to enhance themselves.

Men and women often lie to create a more likable impression. Men lie about how much money they make and how many girlfriends they've had. In contrast, women conceal their true age, weight and such to create a false impression. On first dates, you’ll be hearing big claims and achievements, only to find out later that they were facts blown out of proportion. You could either feel flattered at such attempts to please you, or the lie could be a total turn-off. In these situations, be sure to analyze the person fully before making a relationship commitment.

Universally, the worse lies are the ones that jeopardize serious relationships. People resort to infidelity and lie about that to protect their relationship from falling apart. People resort to dangerous addictions and conceal them to avoid confrontations and disputes. The revelations of such lies always end in heartbreaks and emotional scarring.

 

At the end of the day, the reason why men and women lie to each other is deep seated in a basic lack of courage. Rewind to every lie that you've said or have been said to in your relationships. Whether a lie was told to conceal something embarrassing or inflate one’s ego, they were born out of fear. Fear of being judged, fear of hurting feelings, fear of raging conflicts, fear of being revealed to be dishonest, and so on. Lying always stresses out a person, so in future, try not to be fooled by the lies that someone might be spewing to get into your good books.